Happy is that people whose God is the LORD.
Psalms 144:15, KJV
Do you ever get to feeling so unhappy that you wonder what has happened? Is it us? Is it the people who we surround ourselves with? Is it just the world in general? Maybe it's all of the above, for it seems like when we are unhappy that everything around us is bad, bad, bad! It's not like we want to be unhappy. As a matter of fact, our desire to be happy when we are not just seems to make us even more unhappy... so, what can we do?
Maybe instead of picking apart everybody and everything that makes us unhappy now, we should go back and analyze the times when we were happy - can you even remember such a time?
I can, for I had a remarkable childhood. My earliest thoughts are of being happy. I can remember saving a piece of bacon at breakfast when I was about four or five. Now I know what you are thinking - "you had bacon for breakfast? No wonder you were happy!" The fact is, that it was only one slice of bacon and I saved just an end of that precious piece, but save it I did. I tied it to a string and went down to the big irrigation ditch that was behind our back yard where I knew that I could find crawdads. And if memory serves me, my plan worked, for I did get a crawdad to latch onto that piece of bacon, I just didn't have the nerve to grab hold of him for fear of getting pinched. So, I played with my catch that was dangling from the string for a while and let him go.
I can remember going out and sledding down the hill in that back yard when it snowed, and I have a distinct memory of standing on our tall slide and eating dog food to impress the little girl next door. I can remember flying kites with the other kids and playing "frisbee" volleyball over our neighbor's badminton net down the street. I remember a splendid rock fight with the older boys, getting hit squarely on the forehead, and then running to his house to tell his mother (after all, pain that is not shared is only half as meaningful). I remember taking a dime to the corner store and buying some sweet treat. I can remember a lot of things that made me happy when I was young, and I have only covered a small part of one year of my life.
I know that you likely have similar happy memories from your carefree youth, but what was it about those times that made them so much fun? What was it that rendered such a high level of contentment and happiness? Surely if we could re-discover that secret to happiness that we all just seemed to instinctively know when we were younger, then we could apply it to our lives now and experience the same joy that we had then. So, what was it that made it so wonderful?
I think a big part of that "secret", at least for me, was something that often fades as we get older: trust! When I was a child, I had wonderful parents, and I knew that they would take care of me - I trusted them! I was also raised to respect and appreciate authority. My Sunday School teacher, the preacher, my kindergarten teacher, my principal, the lady who watched us during recess, the crossing guard at the school, and even the policeman, were all there to help me. And their authority was to be respected - so I did! I trusted them to do the right thing, and to the best of my memory they always did.
Furthermore, I was raised with a knowledge of God from my earliest memory. I never wondered if there really was a God - my parents believed in Him and that was enough for me, for they were the smartest people I knew. I was taught about His goodness and His love for me, and I never had doubts about that. So, I trusted in God!
About this point in the article, I know that many will scoff - especially those who were let down in some way by the authorities in their own lives. If you were let down by somebody you trusted, I am genuinely sorry and I can see how you might be hesitant to place your trust in such people, but I was rarely disappointed by those in authority when I was young. I know that this might be unusual situation, but it was true in my life. And because I was able to trust those who were in positions of authority, I had an incredibly happy childhood. It seems that when you are surrounded by people you can trust, it sets you free to concentrate on those things that bring true contentment... and that, I believe is the key!
Surround yourselves with people you trust! You don't have anyone like that in whom you can trust? I feel sorry for you. Perhaps you feel sorry for you, too.
Now that we have gotten all of this wonderful self-pity out of the way, let's distill these facts that we now have before us and maybe we can learn something. When we are at our happiest, it often coincides with our having people we can trust in our lives. When we are at our least level of contentment, it is usually because we do not have many people that we feel we can trust. The key for us, then, is to start seeking out trustworthy people. "Good luck with that" you are probably thinking and, probably, you are right! So, what can we do? We all have heard of bad people - from teachers and principals to policeman and politicians - but what can we do about it? We can't force them to be trustworthy.
This, of course, is quite true - you cannot force anyone to be trustworthy who does not want to be. However, there is something we can do. If we find that our friends are untrustworthy, we can get a new set of friends. If we find that our political leaders are not worthy of trust, we can do our best to replace them. If we find that our policemen are corrupt, we can expose them. If your teachers and preachers turn out not to be worthy of your trust, then you can fire them! If you can't do that, then go somewhere else.
I don't, however, think it will have to come to that. I think the first thing we need to do is trust in God! If you don't already know about God's trustworthiness, you can read all about it in the Bible. That's mot for you? Well, I hate to be the one to tell you this, but without God there is no happiness, for true contentment can only come from the Creator and Designer of this world. But if God is for you, then you have your start - get to it! And once you have this marvelous beginning, you can then go about trying to fix the rest of the world. Too big of a task? Why not start with yourself! I believe that you will find that once you become someone worthy of trust, you will begin to attract trustworthy people to you.
And once you discover this trust in God and a healthy trust in others who are worthy of that trust, it will be then that you will re-discover something that may have been missing in your life for a long, long time: Happiness! For it is just as true today as it was some three thousand years ago when David penned these inspired words: "Happy is the people whose God is the LORD!"
Do you long for such happiness? You don't have to return to your childhood to regain it... you just have to return to the Lord! It's one of the few pieces of advice that I know to be absolutely trustworthy, so why not try it out for yourself? If you are already unhappy, then you have nothing to lose.